How Am I Doing Now? One Month After My Stroke

Recently, someone found my website by searching for “How is he doing now?” That made me stop and think. How am I actually doing, about a month after my life changed so dramatically because of a stroke?

The short answer is: step by step.

A month ago, my life was suddenly turned upside down. Things I had always taken for granted were no longer so straightforward. Suddenly, my body and mind determined the pace. Not me.

The past few weeks have therefore mainly been about recovery, discovering what works, and learning to listen to my body again.

Recovery Does Not Move Forward Every Day

One thing I have learned is that recovery is not a straight line.

There are days when I notice that something is getting better. Days when I have more energy, can do a little more, and cautiously begin to feel that I am making progress.

But there are also days when my body clearly tells me that enough is enough.

Sometimes, that is difficult to accept.

I am used to keeping busy. Researching things, solving problems, and above all, carrying on. My interest in computers and technology has always played an important role in my life.

But recovery asks something different of me: learning when to stop.

Taking a break is not giving up. It is part of moving forward.

Slowly Picking Up My Own Life Again

During my recovery, I have started to rediscover my interest in technology.

Not by taking on big projects straight away, but one step at a time.

My homelab, computers, Linux, servers, and the work I do on this website give me something to look forward to. They provide structure and allow me to keep using my curiosity.

My life changed because of a stroke, but my curiosity and passion for technology have remained.

That is perhaps one of the things I hold on to most.

I do not have to be able to do everything again straight away. Above all, I want to keep learning and continue taking small steps forward.

Support After Leaving Hospital

After leaving hospital, it also became clear that I needed support. Not because I want others to take over everything for me, but because a stroke brings many questions and uncertainties.

How do you get back into everyday life?

Where can you turn when you run into difficulties?

What support is available?

That is why I registered with Incluzio on 1 July 2026 to ask for support and guidance.

I understand that help is not always available immediately. There can be waiting lists, and I also understand that the summer holiday period, with staff on leave and fewer people available, can affect how quickly someone gets in touch.

I understand that.

What I find difficult is that I have not heard anything at all since registering.

No confirmation.

No phone call.

No message.

No indication of when I might expect a response.

Especially when there is a waiting list, I believe it is important to keep people informed.

A simple response such as:

“We have received your request for support. Due to the waiting list and the holiday period, it may take a little longer before we contact you.”

would already have provided a great deal of clarity.

Instead, there was silence.

And that silence makes the wait feel even longer.

You do not know whether your request has arrived safely, whether anyone is dealing with it, or when you might expect to hear something.

Why I Filed a Formal Complaint

I therefore decided to file a formal complaint about the situation.

Not because I expected to receive help immediately.

And not because I fail to understand waiting lists or the holiday period.

My complaint is mainly about the lack of communication.

When someone asks for support after being discharged from hospital following a stroke, I believe it is important that their request is acknowledged and that they know where they stand.

A response does not necessarily mean that help will be available straight away.

Sometimes, a clear explanation is already a form of support.

I therefore hope that my complaint will not only provide clarity for me, but will also help improve communication with others who find themselves in a similar situation.

Still Looking Ahead

Despite this situation, I am trying to focus on the future.

I notice that I am gradually beginning to find my own rhythm again. Sometimes that means researching something technical. Sometimes it means writing a piece for this website. And sometimes it means doing absolutely nothing and giving my body the rest it needs.

That last part may be the most difficult of all.

I am learning that progress is not always visible.

A day when I learn something new is progress.

A day when I manage to get something done is progress.

But a day when I take a break in time so that I can continue the next day is progress too.

Building Again

This website has become more than just a place for me to write about computers, servers, and technology.

It has become a record of a new chapter in my life.

I am rebuilding my homelab.

I am continuing to develop this website.

I am learning new things.

And in the meantime, I am also trying to rediscover who I am after everything that has happened.

It does not always happen quickly.

But I am moving forward.

Step by step.

Working on my recovery, my technology projects, this website, and the future.